The little things

Said it so many times but it’s true the little things in life makes the difference. Little issues that we face in our relationship can turn into an obstacle that can prevent growth and hinder love. At the same time a little act of kindness and love can leave a lasting impression. It’s not about material things but the way you treat each other. You might constantly complain about something and to you its nothing  but to the other person this little constant bother is elevating to annoyance and the fuse have been lit to the bomb that is waiting to blow. No its not caused by just one problem but all the little ones stacked up that have created this bomb that may not be able to be defuse. Yes those little things can snowball into a giant landslide. Unfortunately, the little good gestures just stay as memories but can be destroyed by the bomb that was created. Yes the good stuff can start feelings to flourish and grow into love but once again those good memories

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will be all you have to look back on once the count down begins and bomb goes off. Some would look and say how could this have happened others would say it took longer than they thought. Feeling are real and can withstand but so much before it’s too late.

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Parenting can’t be mastered

That moment as a parent when you wonder what the hell just happened.  One minute your children are nice and cute and now they grown with attitudes. More anger than a little bit, over things and holding on to it for days. You have no bills to pay, you just see the food in the fridge but do you stop to think how they got there. No uncle Sam is not supporting you but I am. I stop and think about when I was younger did I have such attitudes and yes I did at times and we felt it was for a reason. So perhaps something never truly change and in years to come my children my be thinking and writing the same thing and look back and smile about they put me through.  Overall you have to choose your battles as parents too. If your child is a good kid not robbing and using drugs and being totally disrespectful to you then we have to let them work through the different emotions they got going on and just say a pray that they get through it and it’s nothing serious. We as adults still have our attitudes with each other so what do we expect it’s ok for us and not them.  Well yes lol but the truth of the matter our kids are dealing with things we may have never faced or even with things we did face and we reacted the exact way. Take a breath and know that parenting is based on living and learning. It’s full of curve balls but as time goes on you get better. By the time you master parenting they will be parents too going through the same thing that took years to

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master. Even if we shared what we learned times would have change producing different results now with the next generation. Life you just got to go with it and keep trying and never give up on yourself or your kids.

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The wrong reaction can destroy everything that you spent a life time building. Most of the time our anger is over exaggerated and not worth the amount of energy it was given. We have to learn to stop, breathe  and think twice.  If not we will tear down buildings that took years to build and never be able to rebuild them the same again. Families are getting smaller because of petty stuff that grew to the point of an infectious disease that slowly wipe them out. This disease anger is one that can sneak up on us in a minute and without control will kill us all one way or another.  How much more are you willing to lose..Family, friends, home, job, our your life.

Stop the contamination

Many times we have heard that sin cause destruction and we grow up thinking that it only means certain type of sin. The thing we must keep in mind when we do wrong and know it, we must ask for forgiveness. Don’t take it lightly, also work hard at not letting this destructive behavior become the way you choose to live. Why ask for forgiveness from God and those we hurt, because you need to stop the contamination that will destroy your mind, body and soul. Here is an example of how we can contaminate ourselves with wrong doing. Just imagine a hot day and you made a pitcher of lemonade or raspberry ice tea and your about to pour it out when you look and there a big dead fly floating in it.  How do you feel.. upset at all your hard work is now in vain but you know you can start over? Do you not care and take the fly out and still enjoy your drink? Personally, I would have to spill it and wash the pitcher and start over again to put my mind at ease. Same thing when we do wrong. Until we ask for forgiveness and start over so the contamination stops we will continue to destroy our system. We know that bug have a disease we won’t want it in our body. It’s the same thing. It’s never to late to start over, the longer we wsit the harder it is to fix but having that peace of mind will take you along way. Know one is perfect but knowing when your wrong and working toward fixing it, is what makes the difference. Start today and fix that broken relationship or issues that you dwell on, that secretly eats you up at night. As God to guide and help you through.  Change begins with you.

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Matthew 6- forgive

“If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins. “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.
You must free your mind from things you can’t change and don’t hold on to grudges that will stop your growth and hinder your blessings😀❤️🙏

Love by letting go

But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you! In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in heaven. For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and he sends rain on the just and the unjust alike. If you love only those who love you, what reward is there for that? Even corrupt tax collectors do that much. If you are kind only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else? Even pagans do that. But you are to be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect. (Matthew 5:44-48 NLT)

Learn to love through the hurt and pain that others cause you. This is difficult to do but it is a big step in freeing yourself of that stress and pain that can last a lifetime if we are not careful. Many people are walking around with grudges over things that happened years ago and if you ask them, they may not even remember all the details. They harvest this inside of them which leads to physical and emotional problems. Being able to forgive and move on takes a lot of time and patience. Begin to realize that you are not doing it for that person but your doing it for you, who is worth more than anything in this world. You are one of a kind and deserve better than you receive. You need to let go so you can heal and become that extraordinary person that you really are.😀❤️🙏

Psalms 100:5. Faithfulness

The Lord is good; his love is eternal and his faithfulness lasts for ever. (Psalms 100:5 GNB)
God love and faithfulness does not change even when we do. This alone is reason enough to be thankful😀❤️🙏
If God was like us oh, what trouble we would be in. How many times have we been angry with our love ones that we have stopped talking to them and even refuse to care? This has happen to many people and some never got a chance to forgive that person because they later on died and your left with that empty feeling. Looking back and can’t even understand why you let it go that far. Why did pride take over so much you couldn’t let go and forgive. You couldn’t be the bigger person and ask for forgiveness. Just imagine all that we do that God doesn’t agree with if he decided to cut us off, what would happen. Never protecting you anymore from seen and unseen danger. Not allowing you to live a happy life just not caring anymore. This would be a sad day knowing that the his unconditional love was no more. I am thankful God is not like man, hope you are too. 😀❤️🙏

Man in the mirror

Therefore you are without excuse, whoever you are, when you judge someone else. For on whatever grounds you judge another, you condemn yourself, because you who judge practice the same things. And do you think, whoever you are, when you judge those who practice such things and yet do them yourself, that you will escape God’s judgment? Roman 2:1.

Look at self first. It’s the hardest thing to see your own mistakes. How fast are you to point-out faults in others and never see any of the wrong that you do as well. Stop and think before passing judgement

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